Sorry for being M.I.A for a minute but I'm back now and I'm ready to tell all during this break I had to find time for myself again because a lot of things were going on in my personal life. I had to stop myself from putting myself in compromising situations; but now that that's over let's jump in...
Now during this break I was talking to a guy who my friend put me on with (IDC who he is anymore I will no longer be put on with anybody's friend because I'm convinced they're all crazy). We had been talking for a little minute, followed him on Instagram, got some information on him, found the last girl he was involved with, (yes I do find the last girl of the guy I'm talking to who he was involved with especially if they steady lying telling me that they haven't been with anybody), and also just the bit of information my friend gave me before hand.
So from the Instagram you see a lavish lifestyle I'm talking about nice cars, taking trips, designer clothes, all that. Which really doesn't impress me since I've been in college I've had my own money if I don't got it I just don't got it. I'm somebody who doesn't even like asking people for money. So this wasn't something that just made me wanna text him but it was clear what type of lifestyle he lived. So when you portray that type of lifestyle then that's kinda what you expect right? Especially if that's all you posting about like he had no normal pictures on his page at all.
But as far as everything else it checked out no long lost babies anywhere, just graduated from undergrad and assuming was looking into going to grad school, and had his own place. Everything seemed decent. We started off only texting then we went into FaceTime. We called each other every single day, like all night because I really don't be wanting to talk to anybody while I'm at work.
Time had passed and I made the choice to come visit him and stay with him for a weekend because he did still live on campus because he did just recently graduate. Drove out there shit was cool, until I got inside.
Now when I've messed with dudes in the past and they knew I was staying with them for a weekend they made sure their crib was spotless lbvs. Even if normally they were slobs they made sure it was clean when I came to visit and I didn't see the slob side until we got into a relationship and even then when you get used to cleaning when somebody comes over you get into the habit of always having it clean when they are over. He didn't do that his kitchen was DISGUSTING! Bathroom; DISGUSTING. Room was somewhat clean but I damn near still found things wrong with that.
I kept pushing for him to clean and he was not going like at all so your girl had to bite the bullet and do it herself. I know the only other person crib I've cleaned outside my own and or siblings crib was my actual ex and that was only washing his dishes and cleaning his room just because I was always over there and was making the mess 9 times out of 10.
So after being Molly the Maid (only my love and hip hop fans will get that reference) lol but then another red flag hit me smack dead in the face; he start coming for my insecurities I should have just left right then and there but I had no car because yup while I was there my car broke down so I was stranded. He started commenting on my weight and hair, for those who know me last year I lost chunks of hair due to stress, depression, and anxiety. My hair has finally started growing evenly all around and if you follow me on Instagram you'd have seen my progress snap. *dropping details on hair growth routine*) He went through my Instagram and asked me how much I weighted in a swimsuit picture which was 135 pound and some oz. I currently weigh 140/142 he says "5/7 pounds really makes a difference" I'm not one who condones putting their hands on their significant other but ya'll I was gone lose it.
After that I made it back to Chicago and he still was supper demanding about shit. I was ordering swimsuits for spring break from Fashion Nova. I sent him a picture of one I really wanted and he said it was trash because it wasn't designer. So he sent me this ugly ass Fendi swimsuit saying get that one instead. Y'all this mans was really materialistic; but once my swimsuits came from Pretty Little Things he wanted to see them. I told him no because they didn't fit, like at all. He got mad and stopped texting me because I said no to showing him me in too small swimsuits. That was it I am somebody who makes time or takes time from something else to give a guy some attention and he clearly wasn't worth any of it.
I told my friend who set us up everything that had happened a low and behold she says "I know somebody who works with his ex and he really messed her up. He broke her self esteem and was very controlling. She says she been way better off without him." Now why wasn't that something you could have told me in the beginning.
Lesson learned though if a guy gotta flash everything he got he ain't really never had anything and his mindset all messed up, there are more important things than nice cars and designer clothes; things like a CLEAN house. Take it from me a girl who has had to grind for her paper since she was 18, to the point I lived at work, ain't nothing better than focusing on your own paper.
When you do that you have no time to to flaunt nonsense.