Looking at your home girl's face you could tell she needed saving from buddy who doesn't get the idea that she's not interested in whatever he's talking about. It's clearly time to act like you're her girlfriend.
How many times do we have to play the gay role at a function? Me more times than I can count... Why do men not get the idea that when your not interested, your really not interested? Example NYE my best friend clearly looked unimpressed with this guy who was trying his HARDEST to get with her. So me being the great friend that I am; I save her. Kindly explaining to the guy that she's my girlfriend (partner) and I'm happy he finds her so attractive but she's not interested. A few songs later he makes his way back to her and this time he gets a little physical by grabbing her, so me being Leah my facial expressions shows EVERYTHING. (I blame my mother). I'm clearly bothered by the fact that he keeps trying and doesn't get the picture. *mind you it's not like he bought her drinks or anything and even then as a woman we don't owe men anything for buying us drinks*
I'm assuming his friend got the point of "they might actually be a gay couple" and pulls his friend away before I got really mad. That whole situation made me think,
"What is it like for an actual gay couple?"
I sat down with my friend Brook who is indeed gay.. and both her and her girlfriend are FEM's
*Fem: the more feminine one in a lesbian relationship
She gave me the in's and out's of going out as a gay couple, and let me tell you she's a lot better than I am.
How many times do we have to play the gay role at a function? Me more times than I can count... Why do men not get the idea that when your not interested, your really not interested? Example NYE my best friend clearly looked unimpressed with this guy who was trying his HARDEST to get with her. So me being the great friend that I am; I save her. Kindly explaining to the guy that she's my girlfriend (partner) and I'm happy he finds her so attractive but she's not interested. A few songs later he makes his way back to her and this time he gets a little physical by grabbing her, so me being Leah my facial expressions shows EVERYTHING. (I blame my mother). I'm clearly bothered by the fact that he keeps trying and doesn't get the picture. *mind you it's not like he bought her drinks or anything and even then as a woman we don't owe men anything for buying us drinks*
I'm assuming his friend got the point of "they might actually be a gay couple" and pulls his friend away before I got really mad. That whole situation made me think,
"What is it like for an actual gay couple?"
I sat down with my friend Brook who is indeed gay.. and both her and her girlfriend are FEM's
*Fem: the more feminine one in a lesbian relationship
She gave me the in's and out's of going out as a gay couple, and let me tell you she's a lot better than I am.
We started off things by me asking one simple question;
"What is is like going out as a lesbian couple?".
"When we go out and show PDA (public displays of affection) people tend to think of it as a show or something to get attention. When we first started dating we went out drinking and dancing at this hipster/ 70's theme bar. As we were dancing people felt that was an opportunity to invite themselves into our space; men and women. After we kindly explain like "no we're really TOGETHER". And they still don't get the point. It becomes really annoying because when women do it they kind of use us as a way to get men attention almost like "my boyfriend is over there and they wanna try something if you know what I mean". Like would you go up to a straight couple and invite yourself into there space in front of their parent? So what makes gay couples an exception.? It's really disrespectful when you kindly let someone know that your here with somebody and they still try and hit on you because they think you're lying about being gay or that they can still invite themselves into our space. Things like that make it really hard to enjoy our time out together."
This was very eye-opening for myself because I can only imagine what it's like to have people disrespecting your relationship in front of your partner even if their lying; like I was clearly on NYE. I just really think people have a hard time with being rejected or understanding they aren't interested.
At the end of the day I feel like people should just be respectful; because that's all this really is if someone says their not interested accept it and move on or if they say "yeah I'm here with my girlfriend/ boyfriend" accept it and move on.
I did ask Brook a question before we ended our conversation; Have past relationships intervened with your current one?